Talking to the Wild

I had some really sad news about a friend last weekend that stopped me in my tracks. You can be going along in life one moment, then your whole world can change in an instant.

She sat at the back and they said she was shy.
She led from the front and they hated her pride.
They asked her advice and then questioned her guidance.
They branded her loud then were shocked by her silence.
When she shared no ambition they said it was sad.
So she told them her dreams and they said she was mad.
The told her they’d listen then covered their ears.
And gave her a hug whilst they laughed at her fears.

And she listened to all of it thinking she should.
Be the girl they told her to be, best as she could.
But one day she asked what was best for herself.
Instead of trying to please everyone else.
So she walked to the forest and stood with the trees.
She heard the wind whisper and dance with the leaves.
She spoke to the willow, the elm and the pine.
And she told them what she’d been told, time after time.

She told them she felt she was never enough.
She was either too little or far, far too much.
Too loud or too quiet.
Too fierce or too weak.
Too wise or too foolish.
Too bold or too meek.

Then she found a small clearing surrounded by firs.
And she stopped.
And she heard what the trees said to her.
And she sat there for hours not wanting to leave.
For the forest said nothing…It just let her breathe.

-Becky Hemsley

I find it very difficult to process feelings and emotions at home. I try to allow myself to feel emotions in front of my children so that they know it is okay to do that too. Sometimes though, I need to be by myself. I take myself out for a walk or a run in nature and allow the repetitive motion to help move the feelings through.

1 hour of alone time every day is a basic need for me. If you had said to me 5 years ago, you have 7 hours of time to yourself every week, what do you choose to spend it on? I would have laughed out loud. I was lucky if I had 3 hours a week and felt guilty about taking them.

If you put everyone else’s needs before your own without re-filling your own reserves this is counter intuitive. When we are resourced we are better able to handle anything and everything. Learn how to make the shift from time to energy management in my 5 Day Time & Energy Secrets Challenge 9-13th May 2022.


I love a challenge week and can’t wait to open up my toolkit to you.

Keep dominating your time and energy 💪


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